Showing posts with label minivan. Show all posts
Showing posts with label minivan. Show all posts

Friday, August 24, 2012

AN EXTRAORDINARY LIST - PART 2


We joined an art class at a cool museum run by ex-patriot New York artists

We danced in fountains on a steaming hot day … aah!

We watched the sun set over the desert from our very own front porch

We faced a live scorpion in our cabin before it was released into the wild by Daddy

We traveled 650 feet underground into a salt mine

We touched the nose of a real stealth bomber (well, four of us touched it, William kissed it)

We stood under an Apollo rocket

We slept in luxurious bed and breakfasts, rustic cabins, high end hotels, low end motels, and slightly frightening motels

We found and fell in love with a kitten, then returned her to her mother

We rescued many turtles

We encountered a poisonous water moccasin and ran away

We faced vicious dogs

We bought mace to spray the vicious dogs

We rode along the Potomac on the Mount Vernon Bike Path

We visited the birthplace of Popeye the Sailor Man

We sat under swarms of hummingbirds feeding on sugar water and listened to the hum of their wings

We crossed the Continental Divide

We stood inches from a gorgeous tiger who chuffed at us – in greeting we hoped.

We zip-lined in the forest treetops and over a waterfall

We walked in the footsteps of Thomas Jefferson

We explored the world’s largest cave system in Mammoth Cave

We spent two nights in the Cooper’s Shop of a living museum village and had the whole place to ourselves after hours

We woke to the sound of mooing cows

We helped docents make sweet smelling headache bags and were thanked by receiving the gift of one that perfumed our car for the rest of the trip

We rode a real paddle-wheeler down the Ohio River

We were surprised with a visit from far flung relatives who traveled hundreds of miles to see us

We watched all four ‘Pirates of the Caribbean’ movies

We drove along the splendor of the Blue Ridge Highway

We crossed the Ohio River on the last remaining free ferry

We ate the best crab cakes in Maryland (the hotel manager said they would be, and they were)

We bicycled across the mighty Mississippi River

We watched Daddy on television

After 3,713 miles, we crossed the finish to the cheers of friends and family

 

For Gene's very different view of the same journey, check out his blog at www.ConnorsArmy.blogspot.com
To learn more about Connor's Army go to
www.ConnorsArmy.org
To see exactly why we're doing this go to
www.SunriseDayCamp.org
To make a tax deductible donation go to
https://www.wizevents.com/register/register_add.php?sessid=1809&id=1056

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

T MINUS TEN AND COUNTING


The final countdown has begun and I’m not all that sure I’m happy about it.

Oh, I’m thrilled at the thought of sleeping in my own bed, of homecooked meals, and of staying in one place more than two nights in a row.  I can’t wait to see our family and our friends and our cat.  But I have to admit I’ve loved these nine weeks of being in our little traveling family bubble.

No place we need to be except the next rendezvous for water.  No baseball or music lessons or yoga class to rush to.  No schedules to juggle.

Just us travelling from one hotel to the next.  From one small town to the next.  From one new experience to the next.

And my fears of family strife after being cooped up in a minivan together for the whole summer?  They never came to fruition.  In fact, I’ve watched my children play harmoniously in the pool for hours.  I’ve marveled at the imaginative games they’ve made up in parks.  I’ve laughed at the zany ways they’ve passed time in the car.

Right before my eyes they’ve become closer and learned the value of family, and especially of siblings.  If nothing else comes of this trip (and so much else already has), then I’d consider it an amazing gift to my family.

I know, though, that returning to the daily routines of school, work, and far too many activities is going to eclipse the few weeks we’ve had of unaccustomed togetherness; and I’m not really sure how, or even if, I can hold onto it.

And so I find myself back in the state of denial I began this whole saga in.  Only then it was denial that the adventure was going to begin.



For Gene's very different view of the same journey, check out his blog at www.ConnorsArmy.blogspot.com
To learn more about Connor's Army go to
www.ConnorsArmy.org
To see exactly why we're doing this go to
www.SunriseDayCamp.org
To make a tax deductible donation go to
https://www.wizevents.com/register/register_add.php?sessid=1809&id=1056

Sunday, July 29, 2012

CRYSTAL THE CROSS COUNTRY KITTEN

Crystal was cold.

She’d been nice and warm while the gentle Great Pyrenees had surrounded her with white fur, but now the dogs were gone and she wasn’t quite sure why.

Maybe it had something to do with the big black car that had come to a creaking stop on the dirt road next to where she’d found herself when she’d crawled out the open barn door late last night.  It had seemed like such a good idea at the time.  She’d been so curious about what was outside the hay-filled confines of the only home she remembered.  But as soon as Farmer Bill had shut everyone in for night, Crystal had known she was on the wrong side of the door.

She heard strange noises and could sense creatures beyond her limited vision whose interest in her was not friendly.  She’d made a big mistake.  She sat in the field mewing faintly and shivering as much from fear as from the chill night mountain air.

From out of the dark two shaggy forms had materialized, circling her as they sniffed.  She’d mewed desperately hoping against hope that her puffed up fur would scare away these huge creatures.

The shapes had moved closer and Crystal had backed away as fast as her unsteady legs would let her; but before she knew it there’d been a cold wet nose in her face.  She’d closed her eyes and curled up into a ball, crying piteously.

That was when the two dogs began their nightlong guard, wrapped around the tiny terrified kitten.  The unlikely trio had stayed like that all night, until the noisy minivan had come rattling down the road in the predawn light.

Now the warmth of the dogs was gone, and Crystal’s tiny mews reached new ears.

Getting out of the car, the woman in pajamas tried to figure out where the obviously very young kitten had come from.  She scooped up the shivering ball of fur and held it close, trying to give some of her body warmth to the tiny creature.

“It’s okay, Sweetie,” she cooed.  “It’s okay.”

Crystal like the sound of her voice and crawled up to snuggle into her neck.

“Oh, you’re so cute,” said the woman.  “How do you think she got out by the road?”

“I don’t know,” came a much lower voice.  “But why don’t I hold her while you drive?”

Crystal was handed to a man who held her up to look into her face.

“She’s very young.”

“I’d say about two or three weeks,” answered the woman.

The man smelled like milk and Crystal realized she was hungry.  As soon as he held her closer she searched for the source of that smell.  When she finally found it, she started licking and sucking as she would have if her mother had been there.
“She’s sucking my lip,” he laughed.  She continued, though it was frustrating not getting any milk.

“Here,” said the woman, “wrap her in this and I can hold her on my lap as I drive back.”  Crystal was smothered in soft green fabric that warmed her instantly.  “See you later,” called the woman as the man rode away on his bicycle.

As the car rocked its way back onto the farm, Crystal forgot her hunger and let herself doze off in the warmth of the woman’s lap.

She stirred vaguely as she was carried into a tidy little cabin, but didn’t fully wake up until that smell of milk came to her again.  This time it was on the woman’s fingers, and it was warm.  Crystal licked the fingers and nibbled at them, but couldn’t get as much milk as she wanted.

“Not too much, Sweetie.  It’s not really good for you, but you just seem so hungry.”  This woman knew what Crystal was feeling.  And she was so gentle.  Crystal liked her.

She tried to purr to let the woman know how happy she was, but she was too busy trying to get more milk.  She was concentrating so hard, in fact, that she didn’t feel the woman move her to the soft bed.

“Sarah,” she heard, “open your eyes.”  Only inches away, a pair of light brown eyes looked directly into her own and widened.

“A kitten!”

She was scooped up again to repeat the process.

“William, open your eyes.”  This time the eyes next to hers were bright blue.  And a pair of dark brown ones popped up over William’s head.

“She’s so cute!  You put her in my polar fleece!  Never ever wash it!”

From that moment things were a commotion of petting, cuddling, and cooing.  Crystal was in heaven.  She’d never had this much attention before and she definitely liked it.

Even when they left the little house and walked past the barn she’d been born in, she was content to stay wrapped in the soft green polar fleece as Sarah, William and James took turns begging their mama.

“Can we keep her?”

“Where’s her mother?”

“What if she has no mother?”

“What if she needs someone to take care of her?”

“Kiddos,” their mama protested only half-heartedly, “I’m sure she has a mother.  Besides, we’re living in a minivan.”

“She’s so small.  She won’t take up much space.”

“But, guys, what about Lily?”

“Lily would want to take care of her.”

“We can introduce her to Lily like you’re supposed to.”

“But we’re staying in hotels, and a lot of them don’t allow pets.”  Mama’s protests were definitely getting fainter and they could sense victory within their grasp.

“Then I’ll sleep out in the car with her.”

“Sarah.  You can’t sleep in the car.”

“Then we can sneak her in.”

“Yeah.  She’s not very noisy.  Just that little tiny mew.”

“And I can put her under my shirt.”

“She’s too young to leave her mother.”

“But what if she doesn’t have a mother?”

“But I’m sure she does.”

“But what if she doesn’t?”

“If she doesn’t have a mother, can we take her?”

“I don’t know.  Let’s not talk about this any more.  We’ll ask Bill about her.”

“Just promise you’ll think about it.”

“I’ll think about it.”

“Really?!”

“Really.”

“You’ll think about it.”

“I’m thinking, I’m thinking.  Enough.”

Crystal listened to the arguments and tried to figure out what she wanted.  She liked this bouncy family, but she loved the warm hay in the barn that tickled her nose with its smell.  And now she knew the gigantic dogs were her friends.

“Oh, you can take her if you want her,” said Farmer Bill.  “She was dumped here a few days ago.  People do that all the time figuring we’re a farm and can take care of the animals.  But we have no mother cat to nurse her and no time to hand feed her ourselves, so she’d probably be better off with you.”

“Really?”  The children were beside themselves.

 “Mama?”

“I know I’m going to regret this, but if she has no mother … then, well, yes.”

Crystal snuggled into the green polar fleece and for the first time in her three week life she purred.

ALTERNATE ENDING:

Crystal listened to the arguments and tried to figure out what she wanted.  She liked this bouncy family, but she loved the warm hay in the barn that tickled her nose with its smell.  And now she knew the gigantic dogs were her friends.

 “Oh, she has a mother,” said Farmer Bill.  “She’s in the barn.  There are other kittens in there, too; but I haven’t seen them.  I’ve only heard them.  Do you want to help me bring her back there?”

“Okay,” the disappointment of the children was obvious but Crystal wasn’t sure how she felt.

As they opened the door, two kittens came bouncing out of the shadows welcoming their sister back into the fold.  The children played with the three balls of fur as they tumbled in and out of the hay until it was time to go.

Crystal watched them leave and felt almost as sad as they did.  But then her mother licked her and she remembered she had her own family who loved her, and for the first time in her three week life she purred.
So which ending do you think is the real one?



For Gene's very different view of the same journey, check out his blog at www.ConnorsArmy.blogspot.com
To learn more about Connor's Army go to
www.ConnorsArmy.org
To see exactly why we're doing this go to www.SunriseDayCamp.org
To make a tax deductible donation go to https://www.wizevents.com/register/register_add.php?sessid=1809&id=1056

Thursday, July 19, 2012

LUCK BE A LADY

Ah …

Silence.
It’s six’o’clock in the morning and the usual wild hubbub of three frenetically happy children has been replaced by the gentle singsong of two sweetly waking birds.

It is a big day.
Sarah, William, and James are riding with Daddy for the first part of today’s seventy mile leg.  I’ll pick the boys up in Selkirk about twelve miles away then drive on another eighteen miles to Marianthal where we’ll wait for Sarah.

But for the moment I have an hour and fifteen precious minutes to myself.
What to do?

I eat a leisurely breakfast while reading a year old copy of "Better Homes and Gardens" and ponder the possibilities.
I try to get on-line to check my email without three little heads alternating their mutual “Can I get on the computer?” query.  In this lovely cottage there is no wifi, but I’ve had a bit of luck tapping into the unsecured networks of the houses around us.

No such luck this morning.
I attempt to call my voicemail and check messages in this signal deficient hamlet where “No Network Coverage” is about the only text message I’ve received for days.  Every so often, though, I can grab a stray edge of the cell service that seems to float overhead like an elusive jet stream; and touch base with my life back home.

No such luck this morning.
I do some yoga stretches to loosen up my 52-years-old-in-six-weeks back, which has out of the blue decided it doesn’t like sitting in the car for two or three hours a day.  Neither does it like lugging heavy bags to and from upper story walk-up motel rooms every day.  Nor does it like sleeping in beds that vary from rock hard to saggy soft every night.  For the past two weeks my yoga and Pilates classes have really paid off by giving me tools to help ease the stiffness at the start of each day.

No such luck this morning.
I drive over to the old water tower I spotted yesterday hoping to get some nice early morning shots for a photo study I’m working on.  A frail mist of clouds floats in an anemic blue pool of sky.  I’d wanted a bright expanse of cloudless azure to contrast with the ragged edges and dingy silver of the tower.  Ah, well.  Perhaps the similarity will actually create a more dramatic shot than the disparity I’d been envisioning.

No such luck this morning.
I shoot what I can and head back to the car with exactly forty-five minutes to go till I have to meet mi famiglia.  It's precisely enough time to have a leisurely drive to our meeting point, and then indulge in one of my secret pleasures.  Tweezing my eyebrows.  Yes, my favorite location for that grooming ritual is parked in a sunny spot with the car facing directly into the early day’s rays while I use the driver’s seat mirror to pluck any errant hairs.  And my shaggy brows are screaming for their toilette.

No such luck this morning.
The minivan’s self-locking system, which has never worked before, has decided to spontaneously repair itself this morning.  Perhaps it was because of the unaccustomed quiet in this town of 741 (according to the 2010 census).  Perhaps it was because of the tender loving care the car has received from me.  Perhaps Tribune, Kansas is some sort of Lourdes for motor vehicles.  Whatever the reason, it has done so with my keys and admittedly useless cell phone sitting on the front seat.  The nice man who stops to help tells me that the sheriff “should be here in a couple minutes.”

No such luck this morning.
Forty-five minutes later I thank the sheriff and finally get in the car.  The clock reprimands me.  Gene estimated they’d be traveling about eight miles an hour, so I may still have time to get ahead of them and film my three progeny on the road with their Dad.

No such luck this morning.

When I arrive at our proscribed meeting place, the children are in various phases of melting in the already blazing Great Plains sun.
“Where were you?”
“We’ve been waiting almost an hour!”
“Daddy was having vivid doom-filled fantasies.”  (Sarah loves to quote my blog back to me.)
“They went faster than I thought they would,” Gene told me after I explained what happened.

"How was it?" I ask.
“It was great!”

“We rode twelve miles!”
“We’ve never ridden that far.”

“I’m hot.”

“I’m tired.”
“I need water.”

"I need air conditioning."
“Do you have a snack?”

Ah …
Cacaphony.

Sometimes you don’t know how lucky you are until your luck runs out.


 
For Gene's very different view of the same journey, check out his blog at www.ConnorsArmy.blogspot.com
To learn more about Connor's Army go to
www.ConnorsArmy.org
To see exactly why we're doing this go to www.SunriseDayCamp.org
To make a tax deductible donation go to https://www.wizevents.com/register/register_add.php?sessid=1809&id=1056

Friday, July 6, 2012

MAKING LEMONADE

I have a confession to make.  I haven’t told my husband or my kids, but I think I’ve made a terrible mistake.  And it’s all because of a previous mistake.

As I explained in my very first blog, I am a person who likes to plan.  Some (i.e.  my husband and children, my parents, my brother, my sister-in-law, all my friends, well, you get the idea) might say over-plan.  But for some reason, or rather for very specific reasons also explained in my very first blog, with this trip I did the exact opposite.

Despite the fact that this is probably the single most complicated thing I’ll ever execute – much more so than my wedding or the countless other weddings and events I coordinated as the owner of a special events company; more so than two moves, one of which was with a toddler and infant twins; more so than the dreaded college application process that we'll be facing in a few years.  Despite my absolute knowledge of that truth, I waited till only a few weeks beforehand to really begin the preparation.

Yes, I had made reservations at the Grand Canyon; and I’m darn lucky I did because those rooms all opened for booking twenty-four months in advance and I snagged mine only eleven months before we were to pull into town.

And that’s where this saga of guilt, hasty atonement, misjudgment, and manipulation begins.

Most everything we do on this trip is a first, and more than likely an only.  As in “This is the only chance we’re going to have to walk on the sand dunes of the California desert.”  Or “This is the only time we’re going to bicycle on Route 66.”  Or more to the point “This is the only trip we’re going to make to the Grand Canyon.”  And my goal has been to make the most of it by not missing any opportunities.

I thought I had gotten a great room only one mile from the entrance to the park.  Yes, there were lodges in the park itself; but they were expensive, not to mention completely unvacant by the time I looked to make a reservation.  When we pulled into the Red Feather lodge, we loved it.  Although one of the least expensive hotels we’ll be staying in, it was also on the more luxurious side.

It was only when we reached Grand Canyon Village after a long day of hiking, saw the cabins and hotels there, and fully realized the unfettered twenty-four hour access those guests had to one of the seven natural wonders of the world, that my regret surfaced.  My family would have had an unforgettable experience if I had gotten myself together far enough in advance and booked one of those rooms.  Gene kept telling me that where we were was perfect, but in my heart I knew he was wrong.  Every time we went past them, my remorse deepened.

Then yesterday, I remembered it.  A way to make up for my mistake.  A way to give my family a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Saturday we would arrive at Cortez, the small Colorado town from which we’re going to explore Mesa Verde National Park.  We'd have a day off there to fully enjoy this amazing Pueblo site, and we were booked into a lovely mom-and-pop motel only ten miles from the entrance to the park.

Sound familiar?

Yeah, to me, too.

I immediately got on-line and went to the website of the glorious, but too expensive only hotel inside Mesa Verde National Park.  I wasn’t going to make the same mistake twice.  There are times to watch your budget, and times the experience is far more valuable than the extra $100 a night.

Holding my breath I went to the website that’s the only way to book a room and discovered that not only did they have a room available for us; but they now had a special deal running that included the tours we’d planned to take, and ultimately made the whole package less expensive than it would have been if we’d stayed at the mom-and-pop and bought the tours separately.

SCORE!!

I cancelled the mom-and-pop, snagged our once-in-a-lifetime room, and nursed my surprise like a goose sitting on a golden egg about to hatch into a platinum gosling.
Late last night I went back on the website to gloat over my great wisdom and glory in the gift I was giving my family.

That’s when I saw it.  Plain as day and repeated several times as if in warning to make sure everyone fully understood before they made their non-refundable reservations.

“Our rooms are perfectly designed to help you escape the stresses of daily life.  No television or air conditioning to distract you from the beauty of the nature around you.”

How many times had I read that before I made my non-refundable reservation?

"No television to distract you."  No television to distract three children with whom I’m spending 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

"No air conditioning to distract you."  Since when has air conditioning in the desert in the summer been a distraction?

And the only way to go back to the mom-and-pop was to lose the expensive full deposit of our two night stay.  In other words, it was impossible.  It was time for damage control – Mama style.

We’d already been talking about the fact that James and I were getting so many bloody noses because of the air conditioning.  Last night I had another one.  This morning I casually mentioned how nice it might be to stay in a hotel someplace quiet where we could sleep with the windows open and not get so dried out.  James heartily agreed.

Score one for Mama.

Today when we pulled into our latest motel, we were talking about watching our favorite vacation television show, “Cupcake Wars” and the fact that the next episode is coming up on Sunday.

“We’ll be in a new time zone,” James enthused.  “So it’ll be right during dinner.  Can we get our dinner and eat it in front of the television?  Pleeeease!”
You guessed it.  Sunday we’ll be in our fabulous TV-free hotel.
“We’ll have to see,” I responded.  “You know I don’t like to plan things around a television show.  And anyway if we ever miss it, we can watch it when they show it again.”

“They show it again?”

“Oh, yes.  One time during the week.  We just have to find out the day”

“Great.”
Score two for Mama.

“Like the time we’re staying in the cabin in Pueblo.”  I pushed my advantage by bringing up one of the places they’re most excited about.  “We’ll be there on a Sunday, and there’s no television in the cabin.  So we’ll have to watch on the second day.”

“No television?” piped in William in distress.

“Nope.  It’ll be just like when the power went out and we played games,” I countered quickly, following my disarmament strategy.  “I brought UNO and Scrabble, and a bunch of games you’ve never played before.”

“Cool!”

Score three for Mama.

No air conditioning.  No television.  No problem.
Once-in-a-lifetime, here we come!


For Gene's very different view of the same journey, check out his blog at www.ConnorsArmy.blogspot.com
To learn more about Connor's Army go to www.ConnorsArmy.org
To see exactly why we're doing this go to www.SunriseDayCamp.org
To make a tax deductible donation go to https://www.wizevents.com/register/register_add.php?sessid=1809&id=1056

Saturday, June 30, 2012

IT’S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT GETTING MY LEG ABOVE MY HEAD

Two absolute truths about me.

One – I am an extremely flexible person.
Two – I am an extremely inflexible person.

Yes, I know they seem to be mutually exclusive statements, but they’re probably two of the first things my husband or anyone else who knows me well would think of if asked to describe me.
Let me explain.

In a former life (a.k.a. before I had children) I was a professional dancer with a very successful livelihood in the theater.  Even amongst professional dancers, my ability to kick myself in the face during a can-can dance or do a split in any direction at the drop of a hat was envied, and helped me land many a job.  As I’ve gotten older, though, I’ve had to work hard to maintain that limberness, stretching after every yoga or Pilates class and making sure that my leg still reaches well above my head.  Although it doesn’t serve any more to get me hired for shows, it’s a lovely parlor trick and very impressive at the gym.
On the other hand, my parents will gladly regale anyone who asks with stories of my legendary stubbornness and inability to detour from my planned course of action.  They tried their best to make me as flexible emotionally as I was physically, but they pretty much failed in their efforts.

Even when Life with its varied fickle circumstances conspired to aid my parents in their Sisyphean struggle, I was stubborn enough to muscle through and pretty much get what I wanted; and when I didn’t, I had a hard time dealing with the change in my plans.
I’m not much better at it now.

Imagine me, then, on a trek across the country.  Our route is mapped out.  Our hotels are booked.  Our belongings are meticulously packed.  And we’re on a tight schedule to make it to San Diego in time to visit Legoland for the boys and spend Sarah’s birthday at the San Diego Zoo.  There’s no room for variation in the plan.
Add three children, a nine year old minivan, and Life’s on-going determination to teach me a lesson I’m stubbornly refusing to learn.

You can guess the rest.

The inaugural deviation in my tightly arranged strategy came on the very first day, when we pulled away from our home two and a half hours later than scheduled.  This, of course, threw everything off and in order to reach our first necessary stop we ended up driving through the night.  It actually put us a little farther along than we needed to be, so I felt an uncharacteristic satisfaction with the change.

That advantage was soon lost, though, when only two days later our air conditioning broke down in Oklahoma.  I remained calm because the three hour delay wasn’t going to effect our arrival in San Diego.  Even the extra hour necessitated when the tech found a bad tire, didn’t faze me too much; although the additional hour when the tire shop found another bad tire started to bring out my normal change-induced stress.
Back on the road, we made up the time and I relaxed.

Fast forward a week and a half.

We’re ending our first week on the road with Gene’s first century ride – that means 100 miles.  In fact, he’s riding 106 miles through the mountains, climbing to about 7100 feet at his highest point.

The temperatures in Arizona are hovering around 112.  Even the air conditioners are having trouble dealing with this fifth day in a row of unseasonably – even for Arizona – hot desert weather, and there are fans in every store supplementing the automated cool.  There are heat warnings everywhere.  The very young, the elderly, and anyone with respiratory issues should stay inside and avoid strenuous activity.  Gene has asthma, but insists on not amending his schedule so early in the journey.  Perhaps after sixteen years of marriage, I’m beginning to rub off on him.

We carefully plan (there’s that word that gets Life so riled) how to handle the heat, the climb, and the length of the ride.  The first part goes perfectly.  He leaves in the relative cool of 5am and we follow three hours later, meeting him along the mountain route with cold water, a banana, and a three-child cheering section.

The next part of our plan (there it is again) involves the kids and I taking a break to explore historic Prescott, Arizona then catching him a few hours later to repeat the hydration, sustenance, and support.  We arrive in Prescott to find the road through town blocked by the police … for the three hour parade that opens Rodeo Week!

We have no other choice so we park the car and join the celebration.  Watching the parade then rooting on the contestants in the Boot Race while eating fry bread.  I’m actually starting to like this flexibility thing.

After a fun-filled day we head on to our motel in Ash Fork, Arizona, a town so tiny that it only has a gas station and (miraculously) two motels … neither of which anyone should even think about staying in.

We approach the Copperstate Motel, the one with our reservation, with tired feet and the knowledge that Gene is following us with even more tired muscles.  No one’s there.  When I look around to find a manager, everything I see said “Run away as fast as possible!”  Broken down cars, trash, pieces of cookware, rusted out grills, and too many signs of a not-so-pleasant semi-permanent element in the few occupied rooms.

I listen to my gut and we run to the Ash Fork Motel.

It’s less dangerous feeling; but, after asking to see a room before checking in, the kids and I all agree we can’t handle the smell, the dingy threadbare sheets, and the grime in the bathroom.

We retreat to a Chevron station near the interstate to recover from the shock of almost staying in one of those dives and gather our wits.  Luckily I actually have cell service, and call Gene to advise him to ride the extra mile and a half (knowing he’s coming off a 106 mile ride, I cringe at leaving that message) and meet us there.

“Oh, honey,” sympathizes the cashier glancing at my three children, “you don’t want to stay at either of the places here.  They’re really only used when the weather gets so bad that the truckers can’t use the interstate.  Then we have a regular little city going here for a couple of days, but other than that no one stays there.  The closest good motel is in Williams about 17 miles away.”

Seventeen miles away!  How can I ask Gene to ride another 17 miles?  I can’t.  Painful as it might be, I know what we have to do.

When Gene catches up with us, we load his bicycle on the back of the car and drive to Williams.  The Motel 6 we check into looks like a Hilton to the four of us.  Gene doesn’t quite get why we’re so gaga over the clean room, fresh sheets, and spotless bathroom; but he didn’t experience the Ash Fork near-nightmare firsthand.  And all five of us appreciate the comfortable beds.  Especially since in the morning we have to get up at 4:30 to drive him back to Ash Fork so he can start the next leg of his ride where he left off.

The flexibility thing isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.  I think I’d rather put my leg above my head.


For Gene's very different view of the same journey, check out his blog at www.ConnorsArmy.blogspot.com
To learn more about Connor's Army go to www.ConnorsArmy.org
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Thursday, June 28, 2012

WE'RE GOING LOONY TUNES!

Driving down an Arizona desert highway I saw an honest-to-god real-life roadrunner.  About ten minutes later William saw a desert fox.  We chose to believe it was a larger cousin and named him Wile E. Coyote.  Beep, beep!!


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Wednesday, June 27, 2012

IF IT’S GREEN IT MUST BE A VEGETABLE

The one of hardest things about traveling for two and a half months with an entire family in tow is keeping up the healthy diet we’re used to at home.  The temptation is eat the way you do on vacation when you throw caution to the wind, indulge your every culinary whim, and eliminate the words ‘healthy’ and ‘diet’ from your vocabulary.  Big restaurant breakfasts on warm oversized plates complete with hash browns and toast, fries with every carb-rich lunch, and Thanksgiving-size dinners every night.  Not to mention lots and lots of ice cream.

For the first week I let everyone revel in the summer vacation feeling.  After all, we were spending most of our time stuck in a minivan on the interstate.  We needed something to look forward to every few hours.  But now I’m faced with nine more weeks of living on the road in places where if vegetables even make an appearance on the menu it means canned green beans cooked to mushy perfection.
Last night I worked hard to keep my children, who love green beans from the farm stand, from making faces and calling the green mass they received at my insistence disgusting.  Although I have to admit that it was.

Today I was told about a great grocery store here in eensy-weensy Salome, Arizona that had wonderful produce.  Since this recommendation came from the New York ex-pat  who owns the funky motel we’re staying in, I allowed myself to get excited at the thought of broccoli or spinach or (dare I hope) asparagus.  By this point even the kids are excited at the thought of fresh vegetables.
We walked into the tiny all-purpose grocery, liquor, general store with hearts high and mouths watering.  I found plenty of onions.  Potatoes, too.  A few wilted stalks of celery.  Over-ripe peaches, green bananas, and some apples.

“Where are the vegetables?” my disappointed taste-buds wailed.  “We want cauliflower.  We want Brussel sprouts.  We want dark green leafy things rich in iron.”
“Be patient,” I cajoled them.  “We’re in the middle of the Arizona desert.  Fresh produce has a very different definition here.”

I put two bags of frozen mixed vegetables into my basket and dreamed of Kansas farmland.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

I’M THE THIRD WHEEL ON THE BICYCLE

I’m feeling superfluous.

Today was probably the day we were most worried about.  Only three days out and Gene would be riding through some of the most barren, arid, sun-beaten desert we’ll pass through on our whole trip.  And even more distressing, there was that forty-five mile stretch between Brawley and Palo Verde with absolutely nothing, not even a rest stop, for him to get water.
He had the bladder, which holds a liter, filled with ice and three large water bottles.  But the way he’d been sucking down water on the first two days, we knew they’d never last the whole stretch.

We carefully planned.
He rose early to beat the desert heat and was on the road by 5:45am.  We were to follow at 7:15am so we could catch up with him around the thirty mile mark, after about two hours on the road, with three gallons of water and a cooler full of ice.

Imagine my panic when we awoke at 7:45am, a full half hour after we were already supposed to have left!  The kids ate breakfast while I loaded the van, but it still took me 45 minutes to get us all out of the hotel and driving down Route 78.
My stress level built with each mile of deserted sand dunes and each hour of unrelenting sun that had passed since he left.  The only thing we went by was a Border Patrol checkpoint, where the guards held back their contraband sniffing dog and assured us that my husband hadn’t looked dehydrated when he’d gone through there forty-five minutes earlier.

I breathed a sigh of relief but raced onward nonetheless, picturing him hallucinating and heading out into the desert on his bicycle to wander aimlessly until finally succumbing to the heat and leaving us to find his bleached bones months later.
I’m very good at creating vivid doom-filled fantasies.

When he finally appeared in our windshield view, there was much cheering and gathering of cold water bottles.
We jumped out of the car expecting an exhausted and water-craving man.  Instead we were met by good spirits and the information that he had plenty of water because he’d found a small place to refill his bottles, and his bladder was still contained half its icy water.

I was both relieved and disappointed at the same time.
I mean, if he didn’t need us today on this most grueling of rides where hydration could really mean the difference between life and death, why were we here?  We were supposed to be his support team, his link to water and sustenance, his spirit lifter when it all seemed too much for him.  Instead he was well equipped for all the obstacles that had come his way so far – mountains, desert, long distances, heat.  I’m very proud of him for how prepared he is for this journey.

Now I need to find my purpose and reason to be here.

Sunday, June 24, 2012

AN UPHILL BATTLE

After they rode the first four miles with Daddy, I packed the kids into the car and took off for our much looked forward to first day.

After an uneventful and relatively level first half, we met Gene in the parking lot of a 7-11 to refill his water and give him encouragement.  To be honest, I was thinking to myself that this was pretty much like every other ride he’s done on many weekends; and after waiting an hour for him to arrive I was wondering if we should change our plans to meet halfway each day and the kids and I would just head directly to each new hotel.  Especially after he told us that he’d stopped at another 7-11 to get water and didn’t need our supply.

“He normally rides 40 or 50 miles without me bringing him provisions,” I thought.  “Why does he need us all there now when he can take care of himself?”  We headed off for the second half of the drive to our pleasant little motel in Pine Valley with thoughts of change in my head.
In each small town we passed through, I pictured him stopping to use bathrooms or replenish his water supply.  I was fairly certain our strategy would be altered by tomorrow.

Then we hit the mountains.

Twenty miles of hot arid climbing with no place to turn when in need of water or support.  Every time I had to pump the gas pedal to put the car into overdrive and listened to its struggling engine, I thought of my husband on a bicycle trying to make it up the same climb.  My husband who hadn’t been on a really grueling ride in months.  My husband who had just spent the past seven days sitting in a car for ten hours a day.  My husband who was 49 years old and not necessarily in the best shape of his life.

By the time we got to our motel, I was convinced he was sitting on the side of the road dehydrated and despairing because the mountain had beaten him on his first day.  I gave the kids lunch, filled up the water bottles with ice and cold water, and we jumped back into the car to retrace our steps on a mission of mercy.
By the time we’d driven twenty miles back, I was nearly frantic with worry.  Why hadn’t we seen him?  Had he been hit by a car and knocked into the brush at the side of the road?  Had he been overcome by water loss and rushed to some strange hospital?

The return drive was tense as I tried to hide my concern from the children, but I could sense that Sarah had many of the same thoughts.

As we passed the “Pine Valley 5 Miles” sign we caught sight of a familiar jersey up ahead.

“Daddy!” yelled all three kids simultaneously.

We stopped to offer our now not-so-needed water and support, and to hear a few quick tales of his first day’s journey- including the conversation he was having with some fellow riders as we drove past on our outward-bound search.  By the time the kids and I had gotten back to the motel and settled in he was there.  But my thoughts about changing our planned daily routine had vanished.  I’ll be meeting him halfway every day – at least until we’re out of the 100+ degree temperatures and the 4000 foot climbs.  And I’ll have lots of water with me.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

A STORY TOLD IN NUMBERS - FINAL PART

Day Six

Hours of sleep - 3 or 4
Gushing bloody noses in the middle of the night - 1 (James)
Migraines from lack of sleep - 1 (me)
Miles driven - 285.1
Wildfires seen in the distance - 5
Miles from Mexican border - 1/4
Border Patrol checkpoints passed through - 3
Guns seen at Border Patrol checkpoints - 10
Guns not seen but present at Border Patrol checkpoints - unknown
Feet above sea level -  -16
Minutes spent watching the GPS for exact moment we went below sea level - 68
Fabulous lunches in hole in the wall Mexican cantina in El Centro - 1
Time arrived in San Diego - 2:30pm
Time hotel room will be ready - 4:30pm
Trips to Gene's Mecca (a.k.a. the actual Performance Bicycle store) while waiting for hotel room to be ready - 1
Ice creams consumed after Gene's trip to Mecca - 3
Children in the pool the moment we checked into hotel - 3
Excellent Thai restuarants found for dinner - 1

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

A STORY TOLD IN NUMBERS - PART FOUR

Day Five!

Time the kids woke us up - 5:30am
Miles driven when we hit the road nice and early - 692.7
Hours on the road - 12
Time zones crossed - 1
Children fooled into thinking it was earlier than it was by crossing the time zone and changing the clock when they weren't looking - 3
Trailers abandonned by the side of the road - 1
Pounds of "Cline's Famous Fudge" bought at "Cline's Famous Rest Stop" - 1
Minutes to consume said fudge - 2.5
License plates from different states found - 35 (our new record for one day!)
Casinos passed in Oklahoma - 5
Dust devils seen - 5
Dust devils actually driven through - 1
Children who want to see a tornado - 3
Children satisfied with seeing a dust devil instead of a tornado - 0
Cars on the longest train seen - 124
Funky diners eaten in for lunch on  Route 66 - 1

Monday, June 18, 2012

A STORY TOLD IN NUMBERS - PART THREE

Stats for Day Four:

Actual sleeping hours I got with Sarah kicking me all night - maybe 3
Make-your-own waffles made by the children - 3
Make-your-own waffles actually consumed by the children - 1 half, 1 quarter, and 2 bites
Hours to repair air conditioning - 3.5
Thank you's written by Sarah while waiting for the air conditioning to be repaired - 42
Thank you's remaining to be written by Sarah - about 125
Cost to repair air conditioning - $1,054
Bugs cleaned off the car's grill which caused the compressor to blow - millions!
New tires needed after mechanic repairing the air conditioning observed them to be bald - 1 (no, wait - 2)
Hours spent in K-Mart waiting for two new tires - 2.5
Food items the kids asked me to buy in K-Mart - 12
Food items bought - 4 (5 if you count the water)
Brilliant ideas conceived in K-Mart - 2 (buy a universal remote to replace the missing one from the minivan's DVD player, and buy three padded mailers to keep the Kindles and Nook in)
Brilliant ideas that worked - 1 (the universal remote didn't do the job - darn!)
Miles driven once we finally hit the road - 347.1
Hours on the road - 7.25
Time zones crossed - 1
States driven through - 3
Temperature outside the car - 101 degrees
Gratitude for repaired air conditioning - immeasureable
License plates found - 27
License plates found in parking lot before leaving the hotel - 9
Wind speed - 40 mph gusts
Sprawling wind farms rotating in the wind gusts on the Texas plains - 5.5 (one was under construction)
Tumbleweeds seen before we stopped counting - 20
Dead armiadillos - 2
Live armadillos - 0, but still hoping
Bloody noses - 1 (James)
Speed limit in Texas - 75 mph
Trips down Memory Lane - 1 (as we stopped at a rural Stuckey's in the back hills of Oklahoma and Gene relived childhood memories of road trips with his family)

A very big thank you to Cindy the office manager, Scott the mechanic, and Zane the owners of Zane's Auto Repair who got us on the road and kept us both cool and safe!

Sunday, June 17, 2012

A STORY TOLD IN NUMBERS - PART TWO

Stats for Day Three:

Miles driven - 638.6
Father's Day cards given - 2
Father's Day gifts given - 3 (2 handmade coupon books and a "Hardcore Carnivore" tee-shirt purchased at Dicky's BBQ in Oklahoma where kids eat free on Sundays and the brisket is to die for!)
Movies chosen by Daddy - 5
Movies chosen by anyone else - 0
Hours on the road - 14.25
Hours without air conditioning - 6.25
Number of complaints from the kids about how hot they were - 0 (I love my children!)
Bags of ice gratefully consumed during the un-air-conditioned part of the drive - 1
Mississippi Rivers crossed - 1
Songs from the "Cars" soundtrack air guitared by William - 3
Trucks blowing their horns after seeing me playing with my arm in the wind outside the window - 1
Trucks almost hitting us - 1 (a different truck)
States driven through - 3
Boats on trailers but with no car in sight seen at the side of the highway - 2
St. Louis Arches seen - 1
Rolled hay bales - 1000's
Bright golden haze observed on meadows in Oklahoma - innumerable

Saturday, June 16, 2012

A STORY TOLD IN NUMBERS - PART ONE

I started to wrote a prose- ical entry but realized that the story of our initial days can best be told in their stats.  So here are the stats for Day One/Two:

Hours late to start - 2.5
Hours on the road - 27.5
Miles driven - 1,086.3
States driven through - 6
Number of times a child threw up, aka puked, aka barfed - 2
Fill-ups - 5
Dead deer at the side of the road - 5
Wind farms turning gracefully on mountain tops - 1
Wind farm turbines seen on flatbeds on the highway - 4
License plates found in the license plate game - 33
Movies watched - 5 (plus 2 episodes of Mythbusters)
Hours slept in the car in a Pennsylvania rest stop - 4
Minutes of rain - 4.5
Numer of times windshield pooped on - 3 (only when I was driving because birds have a thing against me)
Time zones crossed - 1
911 calls made when Sarah saw a brush fire actually start next to the highway - 1
Rest stops - 7
Important items forgotten at home that Claire the housesitter is overnighting to us - 2 (webcam and laptop power cord)
Less important items forgotten at home that we aren't asking Claire to send to us - 3 (my watch, Sarah's iPod charger - she'll share Gene's - and Sarah's phone charger - she'll keep it turned off unless she needs it)
Women waving to us on the Turnpike - 1

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

CHANGING HORSES IN MIDSTREAM

So I was spending the day before the day before we leave (got that?  It's Wednesday and we leave Friday) barbequing in the rain for 800 middle school students; and I got a really great suggestion that completely changed the way I plan to pack.

"Wait a minute," you say.  "Go back to the beginning.  Why were you barbequing for 800 middle school students?  And why were you doing it in the rain?"

Good questions!

It all started last year when Sarah was in 6th grade.  My favorite food is ice cream and when I saw that the PTSA throws an ice cream party for the entire school on the last day of classes, I volunteered to help.  One thing led to another, and I ended up chairing the ice cream event.  It wasn't very difficult and everyone had a great time, so when they asked if I'd do it again this year, I immediately responded in the affirmative even though I knew it'd be only two days before we were leaving.  But when the notices were sent out to the entire PTSA, it turned out I had volunteered to chair not just the ice cream portion, but the entire barbeque!

Of course, true to my insane desire to never miss out on anything, I figured I could still handle it - on top of planning Carla and Rita's wedding, Sarah's benefit, and a fundraising cabaret.  And all of this was taking place within two and a half weeks of our leaving!

On the day of the barbeque it was raining, so we had to make alternative plans on the fly.  The kids were moved inside, but the barbeques themselves had to remain outrside.  And we couldn't even move them underneath the breezeway because the smoke set off the fire alarms last time they tried that.

So there I am, soaking wet in the middle of four and a half hours cooking in the rain; and one of the other moms tells me about a friend of hers who always packs for family vacations in plastic bins instead of in suitcases.  I swear that if you looked closely enough at me, you would have been able to see the giant light bulb going on above my head.

I went straight to Home Depot to buy a bunch of shoebox sized bins, and now Sarah is busy clearing toys out of the big plastic bins in the playroom.  Hey, on top of learning to do things at the last minute, I'm also learning to be flexible.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

NOTHING SAYS “WE’RE DRIVING CROSS COUNTRY” LIKE A MINIVAN


I have now done something I swore I would never do and that I’m a bit ashamed to admit to.
I bought a minivan.
Well, my husband and I bought a minivan, which was a great victory for him and a huge loss for me.
You see, for the past 12 years since we moved from New York City to Long Island I’ve fought an ongoing battle against the forces of suburbia.  All my life I’ve prided myself on being different.  I’m a five foot tall, left-handed, ballet dancer and actress who spent most of her adult life living in an apartment and leaving town every few months to do shows all over the world.  Even having a baby was unique in my world.  But Sarah was very much a baby of the city.  She wore black as an infant, and was dandled on the knee of our dear neighbor who just happened to be a drag queen.
So you can see what a shock it was when I entered the world of soccer moms and SUV’s.
Being an actress I found it very easy to blend in.  I ditched the black for both Sarah and me, and donned the suburban uniform of khaki’s and sneakers.  I joined a playgroup and a mother’s center.  I went to the playground and the mall.  I drove a Volvo sedan.
Then I got pregnant with twins and everyone joked about the soon-to-be-purchased minivan.  That’s when my instincts for self-preservation kicked in.  What had happened to me?  Who was this pastel-wearing woman?  Where was the uninhibited actress?
I balked, refusing to fall into the predetermined mold.
No minivan for me.
I spent weeks searching for a car that would fit three car seats across the back, and finally discovered that a 1999 Volvo wagon would do just that.  As luck would have it, our local Volvo dealer had a ‘certified pre-owned’ (aka used) one on his lot.  We bought it immediately and I breathed a huge sigh of relief.
I would never, I swore to myself, buy a minivan.
“But,” argued my husband, “we’ll need more space on the cross country so that we can carry everything we need.”
I held my ground.
Then we took a six hour drive to Washington DC with all three kids lined up along the back seat like sniping sea gulls battling for supremacy of the dock.
I relented.
Our 2007 Chrysler Town and Country minivan comes complete with automatic doors and that dream of every suburban parent – a DVD system.  My husband has named it the Vannikan Roadwalker, an action I refuse to sanction.
“Don’t name it,” I tell him.  “You’ll get attached to it.”
“But she’s great,” he gushes.  “She has so much room.”
“It’s not a she, it’s an it.  Any way, that’s not even a girl’s name.”
“She’s like a ship.  They’re all she’s.”
“This is not a ship, and it’s getting sold as soon as we get back.”
“But we love her, Mama,” chime in all three children.  “She has a DVD player!”
“It’s not a she, and I’ve already composed the Craig’s List ad.”
Everyone tells me I’ll grow to love it.  They all laugh behind my back at my insistence upon my dislike for it.  No one expects me to follow through on my threat.
And I do see their points.
I can’t tell you how lovely a long drive was with all three children sitting in very separate seats glued to the movie showing on the DVD.  And with only one back seat out, it certainly can hold an enormous amount of stuff.
But the other day I pulled into the parking lot at a Little League game in my own car.  Amidst the sea of minivans and SUVs, mine was the lone station wagon; and I felt a surge of latent individuality.  Yes, I may be stubborn.  Yes, I may be impractical.  And, yes, I may be pulling my hair out the next time my kids are crammed into the back seat as we travel four hours to my sister-in-law’s house.
But I’ll be doing it in my own unique impractical, insanity-inducing way.
Anyone want to buy a minivan?  It’s cheap and available in September.  The only shortcoming is that you’ll have to pry my husband and children out of it.