Sunday, August 19, 2012

HIGHWAYS AND BYWAYS


“It is good to have an end to journey towards,” wrote Ursula LeGuin, “but it is the journey that matters in the end.”

More than any other thing on this trip, that has held true for us.  We’ve never traveled more than 125 miles in one day, a couple of hours or maybe three on the freeway; but sometimes it’s taken us as much as ten hours to cover a meager 50 miles on the bicycle routes we’ve followed.  And that has come to be the norm for us.

Winding back roads have taken us past bison farms and waterfalls, rolling hills have had us all sucking on lollipops to ward off motion sickness, and ridiculously curving mountain trails have had us (well mostly me) grimacing as we picture Daddy racing along those downhills.

But most of all it’s the lives we’ve seen on those rural routes that have engendered some the most amazing conversations I’ve ever had with my kids.

I’ve had serious heartfelt discussions with my thirteen and nine year olds about the causes and results of poverty, about how hard it is to properly train a dog, about farming techniques and advances, about how businesses survive or fail, about why some schools start and end at different times, about the politics of everything, about why I don’t like celery (an experience with those strings at a very early age), about the profound influence of weather, about the causes of the Civil War and from there about the causes of other wars, about why I insist they brush their teeth two times a day, about terrorism both against and by the United States, about the plight of the Native Americans and its history, and about whether we’re going to find gas before our tank hits empty.

What we forgot during our journey on the roads less travelled is that most likely very close by there was a freeway on which thousands of travelers not so very different from ourselves were whizzing to their destinations at 75 miles an hour with nothing to inspire dialogue but the posts signaling each exit.  In the past few days our routes have more and more often taken us on those ten lane behemoths for at least part of our trip.

So lately we’ve talked about how much we don’t like highways.

We’ve slowed down and those super-handy, super-fast super-highways have become too supercharged for our mellowed sensibilities.

Oh, I know it’s one of those things that will fade in the next few weeks – probably, sadly, even quicker – but I’m a person who struggles against change so I’m feeling the need to make a gradual reentry into the fast paced world of northeastern suburbia.  The children, as children are wont to do, are handling the transition much better; and each reminder of the high-speed existence we’re returning to gets them more and more excited to get back to their normal lives.

I don’t know if it’s possible in the place we live, but I’m hoping I can bring a little of that byway unhurriedness into our day-to-day.  I’m not sure how to go about it, but I need to strive for it.  That’s definitely one of the life-changes I’m hoping to get from this saga.

Wish me luck.


For Gene's very different view of the same journey, check out his blog at www.ConnorsArmy.blogspot.com
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